thoughts...

I was having a pretty in depth conversation with my friend the other day. We both believe that marriage is unnecessary. We weren't saying we would never do it, but we wouldn't be sad if it never happened. 
Couldn't help but look up some stuff on the matter. Found an article that points out some of the opinions I have about it as well, I'm gonna post it for later reference. 

 "I just don't see the point. Some people have this illusion that marriage creates commitment, but it doesn't. Perhaps these people have never heard of divorce. A married couple is no more committed to each other than a non-married couple. A piece of paper and some rings don't create any kind of commitment that wasn't there between the two people in the first place. Just look how common adultery is. And look at the 50% divorce rate. I mean, half of all marriages are going to fail. And even part of the ones who don't divorce aren't necessarily good marriages, the people just feel stuck sometimes or feel like they can't do any better, or are afraid of the negative stigma of divorce.

It's especially ridiculous when you have these people who are on their 4th or 5th marriage. You know when you vow to spend the rest of your life with someone and it's the 4th or 5th time you're doing so, you're just plain full of it.

Then you've got people who got married too young. People often marry before they really know who the person is they're marrying. They usually realize it years later, but by then it's too late and you've already wasted years of your life with the person.

Also, people continue to grow and develop as they age, and there's no guarantee that you're going to grow in the same direction as the person you married when you were too young to really know what was important to you. All marriage does in those kinds of situations is make it more difficult to end a relationship that probably never should have happened in the first place.

People often marry for the wrong reasons. A lot of times marriage is more of a status symbol than anything else. Oh look at me, I got married, just like everyone else. Family members can make people feel pressured to get married if you're a certain age and aren't yet. When your circle of friends are all married, it can make you feel like the odd one out, and make you want to get married just to fit in better.

In response to everything I've said, some people would cite their successful marriage as "proof" that I'm wrong, but the thing is, that doesn't prove anything because there's always going to be the exceptions.

Marriage is only for some people, even though society doesn't see it that way. It is my opinion that most people aren't wired to be with the same person for the rest of their life. I know I've never met anyone that I'd want to spend that much time with. Humans crave variety in all things. Most people don't want to eat the same thing every day. Most people don't want to listen to the same song over and over. I personally don't think it's natural to meet someone when you're really young and then resign yourself to being with that same person until you're old and gray. Where's the exploration? Where's the spirit of trying different things out and experimenting?

Some people fall in love and then marry that person when they haven't even experienced much of life yet, and they're already tying themselves down. Even for people who want to get married, I don't think it's appropriate to do so until you're older and have had a chance to explore life and learn who you really are. So many people get married before they do any of this. People should be in their 30s at least before they even consider getting married. Give yourself time to discover the world and where you fit in it."


Maybe the person who wrote that has been divorced and is bitter about it haha. Who knows.